How to check if someone is good for you?
Suppose you like someone and making mind to remain with him/her for marriage or just as a trustable person or whatever else the case is. In this relationship if its only you who is offering things then stop right now. Suppose you go and meet him/her and its you who always asks for serving, asks about problems and tries to fix all issues. But you notice 2nd person only has desires for you to help and provide something. She/he doesn't bother to ask if you are having problems etc. She/he remains disappointed by you very frequently. Doesn't bothers or even thinks about you if she/he is with other people no matter how long. In this one sided case you are just a hormone overloaded person blinded by emotions. You are guaranteed to end up being a labour who just provided services to a king/queen and prepare to get ditched.
No matter who the 2nd person is whether a kid or grown up always check is that person happy because you give attention and provide things? But they never care for you much. Wake up and have some self respect. Just help them if needed and don't become a 24x7 available serving agent.
Try to spend time with animals they will show you how to give someone worth who cares. If you give food to animals they will behave more better ways than humans generally do.
Below is more related to marriage and little biased to focus on males than females.
After seeing lots of trends worldwide where men are no longer wanting to get married. Many women also don't want to marry but the reason men have is more critical and widespread in modern times where money is considered the magic key of everything.
When a man is selected for marriage most important thing is what he earns, job and property he has. Why its so common that most females feel themselves entitled to get kings, CEOs, high earning managers etc. Women have huge desires inside them and this becomes a problem for everyone.
Why do females think they deserve the best? what makes them believe they deserve the best only? What are they offering to the best they desire? Some beautiful hairs and super charming beauty that can feed food to millions. This is not what people need in their 30+ age. This only works in school and college time only when most are driven by energetic body full of desires, emotions at peak.
Males will have a better life with woman who understands that hard work is mandatory to get good things in life. She should have good health and must be practical. She shouldn't be a person full of desires imagining to get the best man without even knowing where she herself stands. Females who haven't done any real self assessment. Trying to focus on her body only because she thinks this is what the whole planet needs. Life hits hard when this beautiful look is lost. Such women are actually a burden. Woke women are for example a burden. Woke women are who just thinks she is great but has no skills. She has only confidence nothing else. Women in viral videos where they say they don't need man. Both need each other and who doesn't believe this must cancel their own birth.
For married life both genders need life critical skills, good health and strength to handle financial and other similar troubles. If a man has immaturity and just keeps dreaming of beautiful women he will definitely become a bad husband. Imagine a husband that only comes back to home from months of work thinking of having sexual fantasies with his beautiful wife instead of emotional care for her and others. This is so immature and kind of mentally sick.
Same way if girl thinks she is beautiful and deserve the king of country she will make the life hell because non fulfilment of desire creates anger. She will always remain in state of disappointment that she could have got much more in life. This dissatisfaction ruins life slowly slowly.
Today money is critical to lots of things and has become the only thing people want. But life teaches lessons nobody wanted to learn. In ancient times money was not just a paper currency money was having a land, domestic animals, plants, farms etc was all money.
This post is about how to choose with whom one must invest more time and emotions. There are many other factors that also work but these are some of core points that must be addressed.
